Happy wife, happy life is a saying that has been around for very long. The concept is based on the relatively ancient gender stereotype that, in terms of gender roles in a family, the husband provides money for use, and the woman is in charge of the home. Yes, in charge of the home because of the traditional roles she plays to keep it going like:
Managing the household – This involves taking care of domestic duties, budgeting, shopping, cooking, and cleaning
Supporting his career – Being very understanding and accommodating of his work schedule and priorities.
Being a nurturer – Providing emotional support and care for his well-being.
Raising children – Taking primary responsibility for childcare and parenting
Being loyal and dedicated – Prioritising their relationship and showing devotion
Showing appreciation – Expressing gratitude for his provision and support
Being feminine – Embodying traditional feminine qualities like emotional sensitivity and vulnerability
You would agree that doing all of these means taking charge of the day-to-day running of the home and doing all the seemingly small work so that the rest of the family can go about their lives easily without being bothered.
For the family to be happy, the wife must be in a good mood. But how do you do that?
Happy wife, happy life is a concept to be ensured by the man because truth is, if a woman does a whole lot for you and makes your life pretty easy, the least you can do as her man is to ensure that she is happy. The simplest way is to provide all or most of what she needs and doing what she desires as far as it does not hurt anyone.
The kind of love you offer to this kind of woman would have to be sacrificial. You must also understand nuances and not see everything as binary. This means that you would be diplomatic and very loving in the ways you present truths to her and be careful not to hurt her feelings. A lot of times, you should try to appeal to your woman’s feelings.
I stumbled on a Facebook post by Papa Allison Hyacintho and he was playfully asking if it was compulsory to reply to all of one’s wife’s WhatsApp status… I decided to send it to my man and asked him to answer the question and guess what he did!
He started being all logical, explaining how it is not possible to reply to all your wife’s status. In his words, “I hope I won’t have to reply except it really catches my attention.”
Happy wife, happy life mantra must have immediately come to his mind because the next thing he added was: ‘Is this one of those questions I have to give “the right” answer?’
I laughed so hard and asked him to give me that right answer and he went, “Oh okay, apologies 🙏. My love, I’ll respond to all your status updates, why would I ever ignore my love?”
At this point, I let out a loud, hearty guffaw and the same situation that would have had us arguing, spitting out obvious logical facts and trying to be right ended in a lighthearted way. It still amuses me anytime I remember.
A lot of people believe that the happy wife, happy life mantra can have negative effects like creating distrust since one cannot be always sure that what the other person is saying at a time is the whole truth and not just something to make his or her partner feel good.
They also believe that wives can manipulate their husbands to do all their whims and caprices. But is this really the case with the happy wife, happy life mantra?
Well, first, pleasing a wife who knows her husband is is seeking to please her and revels in that is not a recipe for negativity.
Also, not every happy wife is a manipulator but every manipulator is a manipulator. This means that if a happy wife is manipulative, that is not because of being made happy and satisfied but it is just because she is the manipulative type.
On the whole, a real man is never fulfilled and happy if his wife is not. So? Go make your wife happy!